One of the comments we hear over and over from couples as they check out after spending time at Lazy Cloud, a Lake Geneva hotel, is “this is just what we needed…..we are so busy that we forget to focus on each other and this time away was just what we needed to put some romance back into our lives.”
We never tire of hearing that statement; however it got us to thinking that maybe we should do a blog on some ways to keep the romance alive once you get back home after your romantic weekend getaway. So for the next couple of days we will share some of the best ideas we came across in our research. You will see from some of the ideas we list, that keeping romance alive doesn’t have to take a lot of work or money. Yet, they will require some time….I know you are thinking ” But that’s the problem! I don’t have ANY time!”
There are 1,440 minutes in a day, or 10, 080 in a week……isn’t your relationship worth just a few of them?
The following ideas were taken from an article from the World of Psychology, by MARGARITA TARTAKOVSKY, M.S.
1. Show your appreciation every day. “From morning until night, couples have the opportunity to offer words of affirmation, appreciation and adoration to one another as well as the chance to offer nonverbal cues as well,” according to psychotherapist Jeffrey Sumber, MA. Nonverbal cues are anything from a wink to a kiss to a smile. Every day Sumber asks himself a question that’s valuable for everyone to ponder: What can I do to celebrate my partner today?
2. Surprise your partner. Small surprises also make the everyday special, according to Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D., a psychotherapist and author of Emotional Fitness for Couples. He suggested leaving a love note on the fridge, in the shower or in your partner’s pocket; leaving a loving or sexy voicemail; or sending a card to work. Sumber recommended breakfast in bed, flowers or even a singing telegram at work.
3. Carve out time to be together. “At the beginning of a relationship, the excitement and anxiety of connecting with a new partner makes time together a top priority,” said psychologist Ryan Howes, Ph.D. “When that urgency goes away and we start to feel comfortable, time for the relationship becomes a lower priority.” And, of course, it becomes especially tough to find spontaneous pockets of time when you’re working, taking care of a family and already feeling exhausted.
But as Howes said, “if we don’t make time to feed the relationship, it withers.” Schedule a time each week for just the two of you — with few exceptions. See a movie or dine out. Or do something more low-key like talking, listening, cooking or just lying on the couch together. “The idea is to make each other a priority,” Sumber said.
4. Devise your dream getaway. Together, look at brochures or websites and discuss what a great getaway would look like. “Even if you don’t have the time or money right now, the process may be just what you need to inspire yourselves,” Goldsmith said.
5. Take turns planning dates. This way one partner isn’t doing all the planning and organizing. “It also allows us to think about what our partner might really desire that we may not be doing often enough,” Sumber said.
OK….those are the ideas for today! Just give us a call at 262-275-3322 if you’d like to book your romantic weekend getaway today! Tomorrow we will post a few more……